I want to know what happens!!!!
I’ve been thinking a lot…what’s new? Anywho, I watch movies all the time about how married couples fall out of love with one another. I realize that movies are make believe/made up stories. But I know couples that have fallen out of love with one another. What happens in a marriage? Personally I don’t know-never been married. It kind of scares me knowing so many couples don’t make it. What happens? I want to know what happens. I have some theories but they’re just theories.
Theory #1
Sometimes in relationships a person will put on a “front” a fake perception of what they want the other person to “believe” they are. Now a “front” can only last for so long, then the layers start to plea back one by one. Maybe when couples get married to fast the perception of the other person is distorted and they come to realize that the person they married isn’t the same person they dated.
Theory #2
I realize that at the beginnings of relationships you want to be on your best behavior and impress that special someone and you work so hard to get that person’s attention. But once you got that person the chase is gone. You don’t work so hard…the flowers and candies, the cooking dinner and little love notes seem to disappear. I believe that couples stop working on their relationship. The couples give up, “I’ve got him/her I don’t need to impress anymore.” Then one of the person or maybe both starts to feel unappreciated and the relationship starts to go south.
Theory#3
I also understand that communicating with another person can be tricky at times. I believe that communication is the key to ANY relationship. Men and women communicate in completely different ways so misunderstanding happens a lot. If a man asks his wife, “Is there something wrong?” and the wife responses, “I’m fine nothing is wrong.” BULLSHIT…something is wrong. But a husband can’t read his wife’s mind. Then the problem isn’t resolved and the wife represses her feelings which can lead to misunderstandings that can ultimately end a relationship if drawn out.
Theory #4
I read somewhere or I heard about it; that people cheat because it was the way the other person made them feel. I was talking with a friend and he is married with children and he told me he still thinks about this girl from college. “She made me feel important. She did nice things for me which made me feel important. I could talk with her about anything because she made me feel important”, he told me. She made him feel like a man. What happens when you feel unimportant, worthless, unappreciated? How do you feel?
Those are some of my theories I know I know I don’t have a degree in Marriage and Family or about relationships in general but those are my thoughts. I could be way off or right on but just thought I would shareJ.
