AGAPE

I don’t know where to begin….just another day in paradise. Last week was a little stressful with a dose sadness and a spoonful of ….I don’t know….I guess I’ll start with Sunday.

Sunday-My friend Brandon called me and asked me out for drinks(don’t get any ideas he is just a friend and by the end of this you’ll wonder why I’m still friends with him) and  of course his one of my best friends so I said, “Yes!” We go to Heroes (which I hate bars but I’m a good friend and go along) sit down in less than five minutes Brandon gets on his cell phone and starts text messaging a friend. This is the conversation we had (hold on to your seats it’s going to be a bumpy ride) I ask very politely, could you not text mess. while I’m with you it’s rude. But you do other things while I’m talking to you on the phone. But I’m not face to face it’s over the phone…there is a different. No it’s not that’s double standard…you’re being a hypocrite.” There is a difference; I’m face to face with you, would you please not text while I’m here.  Nope! As he picks back up his phone and starts texting again. If you text message one more time I’m going to leave…STOP texting while I’m with you! Of course by this time I’m a little irritatedJ. The waitress comes over, “Can I get you anything?” Yes she needs something to drink she is being a Bitch!! Yes,
Brandon actually said that. You don’t want to know what was racing through my head.  At this point being the proper lady I am…I smile turn my head to the waitress and say, “Yes, I’ll need a drink to put up with this asshole.” Smile then nod my head and turn back to Brandon. But the evening isn’t over yet…this isn’t the worst part….(put on your seat belts if you haven’t yet….BIG speed bump ahead)

Brandon and I start talking about contraceptives (I don’t remember how the conversation started) he and I have different views. Here’s how this conversation went…”Contraceptive are bad you’re looked upon as an object not as a person.” “How can you logically think that? Contraceptives are a necessity for life.” NO!! No they’re not! You deserve to be treated as a person a human being. Back and forth back and forth…until…Brandon says… We have to stop I’m going to say something I’m going to regret. He was mad…I’ve never seen him mad before…he was mad at me. Being the communicator/problem solver that I am I want to talk this out. I asked (compassionately), “Did I offend you?” No. “Was I’m being judgmental? No. Then what tell me…talk to me. (I’m going to quote him word for word on what he said…buckled in?) “I can not have and intellectual conversation with someone that is brain washed and you’re delusional. You’re so far over I can’t talk to you anymore!!” My eyes filled with water as I held back the tears. I have been friends with Brandon for three years and he has never been so rude to me. I was standing up for my faith what I believed in…my faith was not going to be shaken by him. Needless to say I cut the evening short I was a little upset…I wanted to go home…evening was over.

Can you believe that? I’m still in shock and it’s been a week. Plus, he moved me from his #1 friend on his myspace to #8. I guess sometimes we grow and then grow apart…ummm…

I’m too tired to write more but I’ll tell you about Monday…another day……

   Holiness is not something extraordinary, not something for only a few with brains, with intellectual powers that can reason, that can discuss, that can have long talks and read very wonderful books. Holiness is for every one of us as a simple duty – the acceptance of God with a smile, at all times, anywhere and everywhere.                      Mother Theresa